I was so surprised and happy to see you comment yesterday! I get overwhelmed at the idea of responding to comments, but I have no problem visiting you. Hi!

I was struck really hard by one thing you said here, about how friends have disappeared and the unconscious fear of tragedy being contagious. I don't think that's my problem exactly, but there's another reason why I shy away from people when they're having hard times- like this girl at work that I like very much. Her mother died recently and suddenly and she was shocked and devastated by this. She was out for a week and now she's back, but I'm afraid to go into the diagnostic lab and see her. The real reason is that I'm afraid I won't act normal or appropriately in front her, will fear whether it's ok to talk about her mom, mention her mom, or should I act like nothing's happened?

Now that you've pointed this out, I feel terrible. On Monday I'm going in there no matter what. The same thing has happened to me when awful things have happened and nobody knows what to say. But it looks like the best thing to say is never *nothing*.

The done with chemo part is good! The part about being dead tired all the time going away eventually is good!